Prop up

This is an old post I wrote and never published, but I thought it was funny:

Have you ever unknowingly propped someone up? Whether it was a friendship or a relationship, you were the glue that pretty much held the other person together. Yeah, I don't know what it is but I seem to attract these types. I don't know why they're in need of propping up but when the alliance/association ends, these people fall all the way apart to the extent that they are unrecognizable.

In the course of the friendship or relationships, I merely make suggestions or really, just talk outloud about what the other person "might" want to consider doing or exploring. It's just talk. You don't have to do it, not for me anyway. I went out with one guy on maybe two dates. Two years later, he called to tell me that he enrolled in law school as the result of a conversation we had. Said guy, who ordered coffee as his beverage of choice with an In-n-Out burger on one of our dates, was not my type. Our encounter was so brief that its hard to believe that I had that much influence...I think he was calling to brag, like "Bish, look what you missed." But all I could recall was that he ordered coffee with an In-n-Out burger.

The Plunge

I took the plunge, or rather a couple of plunges....I ditched a "boyfriend" and got a puppy! Yea! for the former and double Yea! for the latter. The "boyfriend", and I use that term loosely hence the quotes, turned out to be so typical and un-unicorn-like that he had to go. Too messy, too much baggage that he wasn't trying to unpack. I have too much opportunity, too much potential, too many sunrises and sunsets to see to be bogged down in his garbage or to cosign on his need to maintain his status quo, as dysfunctional as it is/was. Yeah, I 'm venting but bear with me because I do have a point...I think. I think my point is good riddance to bad rubbish. Kick rocks, don't let the door hit ya, you can't have the best of me.

My big ol fluffy, black as coal Goldendoodle, Leo, can have all of me though. That's my dog and my dawg! Sometimes I look at his big ol black mass stretched out on my light colored carpet and just beam at his cuteness. Then I start picking up all the little blades of grass that he carried in on his curly "fro-ish" coat. He looks at me and I look at him and "we" know we've got each others back. He understands that I'm looking after him when I feed him, pick up his poop and wipe the junk out his eyes(that's that poodle side of him). I understand that he's looking after me when barks his puppyish yet gruff bark when he hears or sees something that doesn't fit. When I come home from work, he does this doggy talk thingy that I find so adorable but I bet he is somehow trying establishing some dominance...I'll let that slide for now though because he's my Leo, he's my dawg and he rocks!

What I don't want for Christmas...

I apologize in advance, because it is not in the spirit of Christmas to be ungrateful. However, there are some things that I just DON'T want for Christmas. I thought about doing a quirky offshoot of "12 Days of Christmas" by naming one thing per day 12 days prior to Christmas that I don't want. But then I realized that I have so many things on my list that I really could start now. I can't promise that I will post one thing per day, but it may end up being two or three things per week til Christmas. Here's what's on my "Don't Bother" list:

1) A festive candy/nut/cheese tower from Costco(or any other place).
2) A holiday snow globe or figurine.
3) A microwaveable rice/grain filled neck pillow.
4) Anything from those discount fragrance stores(that includes those box sets from Department stores too...J. Lo, Britney, Beyonce "Heat", or any other celebrity fragrance set).
5) Anything with your job logo on it(though I will take those any other time of year except my Bday and Valentine's Day)

Steppin

I've been taking a Chicago Step class. It's fun. What's more interesting is that there are alot of similarities between Steppin and relationships. With regard to the dance, the instructor frequently says things that can easily be applied to relationships. One night he said as he looked at my dance partner, "Just know that anytime you mess up, you can fix it." Most of the time the teacher is stressing the importance of allowing the man to lead and paying attention to the various signals/direction that the man wants to take you in. There are also constant reminders to the female students to just "relax" and not to fight the man's efforts to lead. I would say that it is more to this than meets the eye.

Baby and me makes....

I had a great conversation with one of my long time male buddies, Mike. As he was talking about how well his kids dance, he stopped and asked me if I intended to have kids. It's funny because I contacted my doctor a couple of weeks ago and asked what the unobvious steps were to getting pregnant, since I'm giving it some thought. My doctor advised me accordingly and I felt accomplished in that I took one step in the direction of having a baby by initiating the conversation with my doctor. Now, I've since moved onto other things(should I get a puppy?), but it's on my to do list.

Mike framed it so well for me and he really has me thinking about having a baby...I mean I was already thinking about it but it slipped down the list of priorities in the last couple of weeks. Mike said that this would be a great time for me to have a kid(s)...he recollected that when he had his first child at the age of 23 that he felt as if he would be raising kids his entire adult life. That gave me hope. Now that I'm ready to "sit it down", so to speak, I have all the time, energy, love and resources to devote to my baby(ies). Wow, you just don't know what day to day blessings are in store when you wake up each day and this conversation was one of them.

Vacation

Ive been gone for a while but I'm back. I read this page tonight and laughed out loud. I have to get back to this...

My Hair Obsession

I absorb all things about hair. I love reading about new hair products and appliances. My most recent appliance purchase was a hair steamer. I am not all that jazzed about it. My hair just felt "bleh" after steaming. I like the way my hair feels after deep conditioning under a hair dryer much better. I thought conditioning with a steamer would up my hair bling quotient but that has not been then case. I will play around with it for awhile.

The products I like are Spectrum Unrefined Coconut Oil, Phytospecific Intense Nutrition Mask, Aveda Damage Remedy Shampoo and Conditioner, Aveda Dry Remedy Shampoo and Conditioner, Neutrogena Triple Moisture Silk Touch leave-in for dry styling during the week, Salerm-21 leave-in used pre roller setting/airdrying/blow drying, Biosilk Silk Therapy Gloss on top of the Salerm 21 and lottabody.