In my soul

I'm not sure if I want to write about soul mates just yet. Seems kinda hokey but here goes nothin'... I happened upon this book about attracting your "soul mate." It asks 10 questions, nine of which I was able to answer a resounding "yes" to. The one I could not answer has me trippin': "Is there someone who still has their emotional hooks in you or yours in them?" is how the question read. You know how people say Woooowww! and really drag it out....that's what I said to myself. Immediately I thought about the ex I dream about a few times a month(and I promise you, I'm way over him), or the other ex who sent me text a couple of weeks ago about not responding to his texts in a timely manner(If I respond at all), or the ex I ran into while he was on a Valentine's Day date with his wife(yea he called the next day). Are those the emotional hooks the book is referring to?

In my unqualified opinion, soul mates come in and out of our lives, throughout our entire lives. Can a soul mate be your best friend, your lover, your mentor, your workout partner, someone you had a great conversation with on a plane? Does your soul mate have to be your spouse or a member of the opposite sex? I don't know, I'm just asking. Or do they simply speak to your soul in a moment or for a lifetime? I'm stumped.

I have had really great friendships and relationships, some are still in place and others aren't. But I think at some point, I felt a pretty strong connection with all these people... to the extent that I could say that they were my soul mate, at least for that time.

The dream of a soul mate gets sold hard and fast to women. Just ask me, I paid $25 for the book. But I think what I have been able to determine is that my husband doesn't necessarily have to be my soul mate because I have found that quality in many friends, family members, co-workers and the occasional stranger in passing. My husband does have to be loving, kind, ambitious, tolerant, fitness oriented and some other things. Not so sure he has to be my soul mate though . Of course, if he is that would be an added bonus but if he isn't its not a deal breaker.